Thinking about the earthquake and Tsunami in Japan as well as the rising crises in our own country with fuel costs and rising food prices and health care. Families are needing to choose between fuel and bills. These issues/discussions about them can be alarming for our children, as well as the images of the current state of Japan, Libya, and its people.
I am not an alarmist of the end times, but these issues are there and the end is coming (as it has been since Christ assended, and will remain until he returns. Rememeber even He doesnt know the day or hour).
I think we need to teach our children to be compassionate and concerned about others in needs without dwelling on the images too much, and that they are worried about adult topics. Fred Rodgers has several articles on his website on how to teach children about things in the media or scary topics. If you go to the PBS website, you can find lots of information on many topics, but here are the links to dealing with scary news and war and violence.
http://www.pbs.org/parents/rogers/special/scarynews.html
http://www.pbs.org/parents/rogers/special/war.html
Some ways to work on teaching compassion to children are to:
1. Have a toy give away, clean your child's room with them and any toys in good condition give to either a children's hospital (they dont usually take stuffed things) or to a local charity
2. Find items to pack shoe boxes for Operation Christmas Child with Samaritans Purse http://www.samaritanspurse.org/index.php/OCC/
3. Have a birthday party for the Peter Pan Project which benefits Children's Hospitals (you have a birthday party and instead of your child getting the gifts they are collected to be donated to a local children's hospital).
4. Food Drives (collecting food for your local food bank)
5. Donate $$ - giving some of your allowance to church or missions
6. ... Does anyone else have ideas, these are the few I came up with
Showing posts with label kids. Show all posts
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Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Friday, March 18, 2011
Remember to Praise
Kids are frustrating. They get into mayhem so quickly and just as quickly your temper may rise along with your voice (I admit mine does, I can be a yeller.).
One thing that may help with this is to look for the positives that your child is doing. "AJ" is working on getting better at cleaning up her toys when done. She loves to sing the clean up song.
Praise isn't always a natural thing or feeling to share. Look for the good things your child is doing (your spouse too), and point those out.
Praise yourself too for doing good. This will help teach your child this skill. It is not conceited to give yourself praise (even outloud) for a job well done.
Only piece of advice I would give here is to remember not to make the praise sound like a condition of your love. Instead of saying "Johnny, I love it when you clean your room." Sounded like praise but it also attached your love to him having a clean room. Say it more like "I like how you cleaned your room, good job."
Work not to attach you love to the praise statement. Listen to your wording when you talk (I admit I need to remember that too.)
Sometimes I think these lessons are made for me to learn in my head when I share them with others, just like my children's sermons are more for me than the church sometimes... Happy Parenting
One thing that may help with this is to look for the positives that your child is doing. "AJ" is working on getting better at cleaning up her toys when done. She loves to sing the clean up song.
Praise isn't always a natural thing or feeling to share. Look for the good things your child is doing (your spouse too), and point those out.
Praise yourself too for doing good. This will help teach your child this skill. It is not conceited to give yourself praise (even outloud) for a job well done.
Only piece of advice I would give here is to remember not to make the praise sound like a condition of your love. Instead of saying "Johnny, I love it when you clean your room." Sounded like praise but it also attached your love to him having a clean room. Say it more like "I like how you cleaned your room, good job."
Work not to attach you love to the praise statement. Listen to your wording when you talk (I admit I need to remember that too.)
Sometimes I think these lessons are made for me to learn in my head when I share them with others, just like my children's sermons are more for me than the church sometimes... Happy Parenting
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